When I was eight years old, my father built a new house for us to live in. One afternoon while working on the house, he was also looking after my younger siblings and me. At one point, my four-year-old sister climbed up the ladder to be on the roof with my father. My brother and I also began to climb up to join them. But my father refused to allow it. Our immediate reaction was, “It’s not fair!” But Dad was adamant. We were to stay on the ground.At the time, I didn’t understand that my father was concerned for our safety. One child on the roof may not have been a problem. But allowing three bored, argumentative children on the roof together would have been courting disaster.I am now a parent and a grandparent, and I would probably make a decision similar to my dad’s. As a child, I saw the situation as my father’s favoring my little sister — again! I failed to recognize my dad’s sound judgment and the love that fueled his decision.As an adult, when I think something is unfair, I may be failing to understand God’s deep love for me and for those around me. Then, I remember this and other similar lessons from my childhood. Gradually, I am learning to trust more deeply in the wisdom and judgment of our loving God.